16 Ways to Make a Better Impression
Impressions are made fast. Perhaps as quickly as just a few seconds. They’re made based on perceptions of appearance, attitude, trustworthiness and agenda. First impressions can be changed, but why not make the most of every interaction? Our tips will help.
1. Message Make-Up
Albert Mehrabian’s groundbreaking research concluded there are three elements of face-to-face communication. Messages are communicated by the words spoken (7%), the tone of voice (38%) and body language (55%). Each element is important, but delivery clearly colors the meaning of your message.
2. Appearance
Even before you speak, your appearance begins to shape the impression you make on those around you. Dress appropriate to the situation. When in doubt, it’s better to be overdressed than underdressed. Clothing, shoes, jewelry and grooming should be fresh and moderate. Individual style is fine, but always consider its impact.
3. Body Language
Body language accounts for over half of your communication. What are you saying? Avoid closed postures, fidgeting and lack of focus. Try to be relaxed, open, enthusiastic, confident,
engaged—and smile. Use gestures for emphasis, but generally it’s a good idea to avoid touching your face.
4. Handshake
When shaking hands, there’s no difference for gender. Right hand, with a firm, complete grip, mid-point between both people. Go for a moderate level of vigor, held no longer than two or three seconds. Maintain eye contact, smile and exchange an appropriate statement of greeting.
5. Eye Contact
Eye contact invites conversation. Use it to complement your active listening skills. When a person speaks, they expect to be looked at by those they’re addressing. However, when you are the speaker, eye contact can affect your concentration. Some people find eye contact more difficult than others due to social anxieties. Whatever your comfort level, remember that good eye contact communicates interest and engagement in the conversation.
6. Demeanor
Your bearing, or your demeanor, is largely individual. If you’re naturally enthusiastic and friendly go ahead and leverage those traits in your interactions. What’s most important however, is to be polite, courteous and attentive. Master these behaviors and you have the foundation for success in most communications.
7. Name
Remembering someone’s name acknowledges his or her importance. Work the name of a new acquaintance into the conversation once or twice. If you don’t hear the name clearly, or if it’s one unfamiliar to you, ask to hear it again and verify you heard it correctly. If appropriate, ask for a business card. Then, you’ll have the name, its correct spelling and your new acquaintance’s title.
8. Gadgets
Smartphones and other advanced technologies keep us connected. But they can also be annoying and disruptive when they’re constantly blinking and beeping for our attention. Make it a habit to put these distractions in their place—turned off, muted or on vibration only—as appropriate to the place and circumstance of your meeting. Unless it’s an emergency, any interruption is disruptive to one degree or another.
9. Mood
Some days are better than others. If you’ve just encountered a serious setback or disappointment, unless it requires immediate attention, give yourself time to recover and put things in perspective with a little distance. It’s okay to reschedule a meeting when your demeanor won’t be colored by a foul mood.
10. Flaws
Nobody is perfect. In fact, our flaws and imperfections are an important part of who we are, and why two heads are usually better than one. Don’t hide or deny your flaws. Embrace them and understand that some things are more challenging to one person than another. Don’t be afraid to acknowledge your flaws. They show you’re only human, just like everybody else.
11. Focus
Unless the discussion is a job interview, it’s not about you. Try to keep your communications focused on the topic or challenge at hand. Avoid sidetracks. Avoid personal opinion, based on anecdotal evidence. Return the discussion
to high-level goals if it becomes mired in detail. Listen for understanding. Speak with humility, expertise and experience.
12. Intention
Before an interaction with someone, take a moment to consider the outcome you want. Think about the long-term result, not just one for that moment. Then, think about the ideal behavior to help you achieve that result. Focus on it and act accordingly. When you take the high ground, it usually provides a better perspective.
13. Interest
Not everything or everyone inspires your interest and enthusiasm. But if you aspire to make a better impression, then aspire to be more interested and enthusiastic. Once you really connect with someone, you won’t need the extra effort for long.
14. Preparation
Preparation and practice are two of the keys to successful public speaking. They’re equally effective for other interactions. Obviously, there isn’t time to prepare for every potential encounter, but any time you can give a few extra moments to preparation, your communications and interactions will benefit.
15. Cultivation
We’re more connected now than ever before. When you establish a new relationship you value, make an effort to preserve it. Use social media, email, phone calls or other venues to maintain contact at an appropriate level. Take a tip from sales people, who rely on relationships for their business. Their techniques to track and recall client details can teach us a lot about how to cultivate business relationships.
16. Reciprocate
When someone does something extra for you, nothing says thanks louder than action. It can be as simple as acknowledging your thanks in a card, or to actually return the favor by helping them in an appropriate way. Reciprocating is one of the best ways to build relationships and leave an unforgettable impression.
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